“You Don’t Get What You Want “ by Ilber

“You Don’t Get What You Want “ by Ilber - October 2019 Scholarship Essay

Growing up with a strict father has been a blessing. Not only for me but for my mother as well. At the age of 8, I noticed how my father was different from my uncles. My uncles Kids had everything they’d always ask for. Such as expensive toys, fresh clothes, to luxurious cars. I asked myself one day, why ? Why doesn’t my dad give me what I desire.
I wouldn’t understand at the time how they would be spoiled by their parents, and I wouldn’t by my parents. I would see how my cousins would act with me. At times they would be nice, but they would have lots of pride in them. They would make fun of me for not having what they would have. I always went to my dad and ask him why doesn’t he show me “love”. At that time I didn’t know what love of a parent who wants the best for their children would be. I thought love had to be shown by you’re father buying you things, so that you would be happy.
My father told me “you don’t get what you want in this world. At least not yet”. I asked myself what did he meant by that.
My father is a hard working man, with a positive attitude. He’s the most hard working man I’ve ever known. He’s always working, even when he’s feeling sick. He would always tell me that you have to sweat from you’re forehead, in order for you to win the bread of each day. Well at least that’s how he gets his. He would punish me for not getting good scores on my grades. Also when I wouldn’t behave right. I thought that wasn’t normal, since I would see how my uncle wouldn’t punish his kids. At the time I felt bad for myself since I thought I had the worst parents ever. I would be shy telling my cousins what I didn’t have and some things I would had. I would consider myself as a unpopular kid, since I wasn’t keeping up with the “trend” of that time . It’s a blessing. I feel blessed that I have both parents with me. Yes I’ve felt like I didn’t have anything, and yes I’ve cried over all of this. But I’m blessed having a father that corrected me every time I failed them. I’m blessed that I have a father that taught me how to work myself up, in order to get what I want. He taught me how
to treat others the way you want to be treated. to stay true to myself. He showed me how hard it is to win money but only if you want too. Only if I want to, because I have an opportunity to become someone great.
My father really inspired me because all of that. He inspired me by building my path to success. It’s on me to walk on it alone.
Having you’re father go hard on you in you’re education is challenging. He’s encouraging me to do better, so I can have a successful future. Although nothing is easy, my father is still riding with me.