One piece of advice for my past self by Keyla

One piece of advice for my past self by Keyla - July 2025 Scholarship Essay

People pleasing; a behavior where someone prioritizes the needs and desires of others, often leads to self - neglect. I always had a problem with people pleasing, but I thought I was a giver, I wanted to be there for everyone. I wanted to be the friend they depend on no matter the circumstances, and I did, until it took a toll on my mental health. I cannot pour from a cup that has not been filled. When I needed help, advice and resources to support me in my time of need, no one wanted or couldn’t help me. This led me to not communicate about my feelings and thoughts.

In the end, I was drain, confused and heartbroken. No one came to assist me, when I assisted with their issues and circumstances. Yet, I am still willing to serve others and be a helping hand to those who need me. They are counting on me, but the difference is I am putting myself first. I am learning to vocalize when I need to reset and taking care of my mental and emotional health. I am also learning to express my emotions and concerns about my mental and emotional person to a trusted person

So, If I could tell her anything; to save her so much heartbreak and pain, save her from the feeling of not being or will not be enough, I would tell her to avoid people pleasing and learn to stand up for herself. Not everyone will like you and have your best interest at heart, and you shouldn't audition to befriend people like that. Why would you want to be around people who are destined to drain you and not fulfill you?