Second Chances by Alexa

Second Chances by Alexa - September 2022 Scholarship Essay

If I could give one piece of advice to my past self, it would be to never allow anyone to take advantage of my compassion. For as long as I can remember, I have always been utilized for my forgiveness of people that have wronged me. When I was growing up, I was always quick to supply people with multiple chances, always believing that the next time would result in a different experience. I have nearly always regretted those decisions, because I am reminded of exactly what had happened the first time.
Now that I am older, I have come to the realization that if someone wrongs me significantly enough one time, they shouldn't be given the chance to repeat the past and make a fool of me a second time. Over time, I can't shake the feeling of doubt for people because I have developed trust issues over the years. I can't trust that people will abstain from hurting me in the same ways that I have been hurt in the past. I believe that very few people change, and the ones who end up changing will always try their hardest to prove themselves worthy of another chance. If someone isn't putting any effort into changing, they should not be supplied with the opportunity to waste my time any longer.
After deciding to refrain from giving second chances, I have grown to be less stressed, less anxious, and less irritable. My life has improved drastically. As Thabiso Xabanisa once said, “We all deserve second chances, but not for the same mistake".